comparisons are easily done; once you've had a taste of perfection.

HELLO. this was posted on weijie's blog and i feel like i need to stand up for my own gender.

“This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is for the guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for the nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And also for that time she didn’t have a date, and even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

Many girls claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!).


okay, i really agree with this thing, like how there are so many nice guys in this world who are taken for granted by the girls around them, guys who are not seen as 'date-able', 'cos they're 'too nice' and 'just friends'. but it's like, sometimes, those nice guys are simply it. NICE. maybe they should try to 'man' up sometimes, and no, i don't mean start inserting expletives into their every sentences and having fart competitions with their friends in front of girls, but maybe those nice guys need to try and make the first move! oftentimes, the nice guy remains at the girl's side but doesn't say a word and just quietly supports her and quietly nurses his broken heart.
i mean what all girls really want is not much - someone they can trust and someone who gives them a sense of security. sometimes the nice guy is really nice and trustworthy but doesn't give the girl the feeling of "oh, he will come and rescue me if i'm ever in trouble" you know? but obviously, not all nice guys are the same. i'm just saying.

and also, this is not only true for nice guys! there are a lot of nice girls out there who are neglected as well. i mean it's so hard to live up to guys' expectations sometimes. i feel so sickened every time it's like "aye, she's nice but she's not hot." you know? like they don't even want to take an interest in a girl if she doesn't fulfill certain physical attributes (e.g. skinny/fit/long,glossy hair/big eyes,etc.)

okay i better stop here before i start rambling on and on.

ARGH. IA IA IA D: